Would it surprise you to hear that I agree with everything you just said. And I also agree with what I said. And that's not contradictory.
You are arguing that it's a form of revisionist history to pretend that women had a significant role in the leadership of nations. Obviously that sentiment is completely false. Completely and utterly. I also think, in a similar vein, that what Liberals have done to remake the Native Americans into some peaceful hippy commune, basically the Garden of Eden, that the white man destroyed is another bit of revisionist history that disgusts me. Women have never really lead in any consistent, meaningful way until very recently (Elizabeth and Catherine being such lonely exceptions to the rule), and Native Americans were horrifically violent and savage to each other (fighting over boundaries and territory, hardly a civilization that "had no concept of ownership") before the white man got to them So on this point, I think we agree completely.
But Civilization isn't Wikipedia or a textbook. It's entertainment. Period. And when it comes to entertainment, variety is a key component. I listen to
Penn's Sunday School and on his first episode, when requesting his audience members to try out for the part of "Call-in News Reader", he specifically asked for women. Why? Was he saying that women make better news readers? Was he saying that every podcast needs to have a gender-balance for "equality's sake"? No. The only reason he wanted a woman for that part was that every voice on his podcast was male. And on radio, when you have all male voices, it tends to turn into a bass-heavy monotone to the listener. Female voices have a different pitch that adds to most people's enjoyment when listening. It's entertainment and it needs to service the goals of entertainment first and foremost.
Civ isn't making the statement "Women have been great leaders in history!" or "Women need to be included because that's what's 'fair'!" It's simply a matter of "It's more boring to play a Civ game where every leader you interact with is male. It's a sausage fest, and thus, not as interesting or fun". And I support that.